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The Three C’s of Effective Communication
In a previous article The #1 Most Important Relationship Skill introduced the idea that taking ownership of your internal experience (thoughts, feelings, needs, beliefs, attitudes and judgments) is far more important than anything you might say for effective communication and successful relationships. The Big Idea: When it comes to humans it is inevitable that “What’s […]
The Couples Circle: Powerful Peer Support for Conscious Couples
By David Steele I first learned about the concept of a Couples Circle when I spent the weekend at Harville Hendrix’s ranch in New Mexico helping to form “Imago Couples International;” a non-profit peer support organization for couples. In addition to benefiting personally, as a Relationship Coach I see tremendous benefit for participation in a […]
Top Two Principles for a Successful Relationship
Here's two of the biggest principles of life, love and relationships that I’ve learned over the years. The post Top Two Principles for a Successful Relationship first appeared on Relationship Coaching Institute(RCI).
How to Coach Decision Making
Most times in life a decision isn’t a clean, easy “Yes” or “No” and almost all significant choices and decisions that a client might bring up with a coach usually include unavoidable, undesired consequences and downsides. This makes decision making an incredibly common and important coaching topic, agenda, and skillset. In coaching relationships a simple […]
How to Use Your Coaching Superpower: Five Real Examples
Coaching is more than asking one question at a time. Coaching is taking your client on a journey by asking a SERIES of questions strategically designed to move them forward towards their desired results. The post How to Use Your Coaching Superpower: Five Real Examples first appeared on Relationship Coaching Institute(RCI).
How to use Artificial Intelligence (A.I.) to Help Your Coaching Clients
Our highest priority in Life and Relationship Coaching is to empower our clients to be creative and resourceful in accomplishing their goals, which is a big reason why we avoid giving advice and suggestions. We like to think that our client has all the answers inside them, to which most clients would disagree if you […]
The #1 Secret to Becoming a Fantastic Coach
Here at Relationship Coaching Institute we provide the training, mentoring and support you need to become a successful and skilled coach, but how do you become a fantastic coach? Becoming a fantastic coach, as with most skills and professions, typically follows these Four Stages of Competence: Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence The trainee does not understand […]
Four Alternatives to Compromise in a Relationship
Compromise should be a last resort for resolving differences in a relationship and here’s why: When you “compromise” you are giving up some of what you want/need to meet in the middle somewhere with your partner. If you do this often enough you will find yourself sacrificing too much to make the relationship work and […]
Dealing with Client Resistance in Life and Relationship Coaching
A professional coach doesn’t psychoanalyze their client and interpret their behavior as “resistant,” simple as that. The nuance here is that “resistance” happens, is more commonly caused inadvertently by the coach, and doesn’t always mean the client has a problem that needs fixing. Just as “the customer is always right” you can assume that your […]
How to Refer for Therapy as a Professional Coach
In coaching we like to say “When in doubt, refer it out,” but how? A trainee of Relationship Coaching Institute with a client exhibiting symptoms of severe postpartum depression asked “How do you handle referrals when your client lives in another state and you don’t have any connections in their area?” and stimulated the following […]